I’m not here to sell you on coaching.
You can go to hundreds and hundreds of sites extolling the virtues of coaching with many questionnaires to see if you are ready for it, or if it is the tool for you. I’m here to tell you about what I offer to my clients as a coach and why coaching matters to me.
Why I believe in coaching.
I believe in the power of coaching to change lives. It changed mine. I became a coach because I believed life was amazing, but there was a day when I felt that I wasn’t having an amazing experience with it.
Coaching doesn’t label life as good or bad, but as life. And wherever you go, there you are, and you might as well dig in and enjoy the juice of this moment. Life is ripe with experiences. Through my coaching work I remembered how incredibly lucky I was to be on my journey. There is so much to learn, to feed from, to taste. The bitter and the sweet. Coaching has helped me strengthen my ability to stay with my life, exactly where I am. It addresses my whole life, my family, spirituality, recreation, love life, career, and money, all of it.
With coaching I have been able to continually get clearer and clearer in the moving target that is my life. I’m able to label what matters to me today, what I want in a year and in even in 20 years. I’ve been able to move from feeling resentful, victimized by some of life’s tricks, to feeling empowered. I learned how to create experiences from my own inner wisdom instead of my cranky “that wasn’t fair’ place.
My client Sara gave me this great visual metaphor about the effect of having a Life coach-life can have you feeling like you are running to catch the truck that is pulling away and it never slows down to let you on. Coaching puts you in the driver’s seat of that truck. You don’t have to run after life anymore. I love that one.
When I started my coach training with The Coaches Training Institute 5 years ago, my goals looked very different from today, but that is the great thing about my work. It allows for flexibility of destination. For me, living is a day to day reckoning of what matters, what satisfies me, what I’m called to do in service during my time here, for myself, my family and the world at large. I ask myself daily- is this my most fulfilling and satisfying life? And if it isn’t, then I’m making plans to change that. You can get a sense of my daily journey by reading my blog.
Coaching, unlike therapy, is a forward-looking effort. But that doesn’t change the fact that I have healed old wounds through this work, and come to a point of peace and acceptance of much of my past. I have learned to practice forgiveness of myself, and I highly recommend it. I love putting my energy to the future and envisioning and acting in a way that matches with my deepest values in life. Coaching work has continually illuminated for me not only who I am, but also how I can move forward in my daily life, never losing sight of the bigger picture.
In the last few years I have had tremendous satisfaction professionally and personally. I’ve even had some “too good to be true’ moments (that would be guest hosting at CBC Saturday Afternoon at the Opera for the last two years.)
At the end of it all, I want what so many of us want. To be loved, to love, to know happiness more than sadness and to be at peace with what is.
Why Coach with Me?
If you have read this far, I’m guessing that you think coaching is interesting, and might be a good idea for you. But how do you choose a coach? Working with a coach is a very personal experience and you want to feel that you can say anything, reveal anything and it will be held gently and in confidence. You also want to feel that your coach is in your corner, cheering you on to your destination.
Your coach sees what is truly great in you and aids and assists you in taking that kernel of yourself into the world daily. The being lines up with the doing. After all, you are a human BE-ing first. With your coach, you get clear on which you want to be, and then you can make an action plan.
I see my clients in the thick grass trying to get to the beach, and I, as their coach, sit on the mountain with a view of it all and keep them on track to get where they are going.
The client keeps track of the daily steps and as the coach, I keep an eye that those steps are leading to the goal the client has claimed.
This is what I believe being a coach is. This is who I am. I have had a long professional singing career in opera. I know what it is to want something very badly that seems to be impossible to have. I aimed myself in life out of passion for an art form. I have known great success and euphoria and I have known deep disappointment and loss. Many clients come to me because of this. They want to take risks and reach out, but they fear. I believe in living your passions, and sending fear on a holiday. I believe people have what they need inside of them to get where they want to go. I delight in being a coach who can walk the path with people as they leave familiar territory and strike out freshly.
My clients come from many walks of life with diverse goals. From people in mid career crisis, to CEO’s to moms with empty nest syndrome and artists trying to reconcile living passionately with paying the rent. I fire up my clients with increased clarity, released creativity and passions and an alignment to what matters to them. If you are still reading this, then please fill out the contact form below and let’s talk. I offer a complimentary coaching so that you can learn more about what coaching is and isn’t and get some coaching on something that matters to you today.
You have got nothing to lose, and much to gain.